For years, Dr. Linda Fried offered older patients who complained of being lonely what seemed to be sensible guidance. 鈥淕o out and find something that matters to you,鈥 she would say.
But her well-meant advice didn鈥檛 work most of the time. What patients really wanted were close relationships with people they care about, satisfying social roles and a sense that their lives have value. And this wasn鈥檛 easy to find.
We need 鈥渘ew societal institutions that bring meaning and purpose鈥 to older adults鈥 lives, Fried recently told investigating loneliness and social isolation among older adults. (Fried is a geriatrician and dean of the Mailman School of Public Health at Columbia University.)
The committee鈥檚 deliberations come amid growing interest in the topic. Four surveys (by , , the and the ) have examined the extent of loneliness and social isolation in older adults in the past year. And health insurers, health care systems, senior housing operators and social service agencies are launching or expanding initiatives. (Kaiser Health News is an editorially independent program of the Kaiser Family Foundation.)
Notably, Anthem Inc. is planning a national rollout to Medicare Advantage plans of developed by its subsidiary CareMore Health, according to Robin Caruso, CareMore鈥檚 chief togetherness officer. UnitedHealthcare is to Medicare Advantage members at risk for social isolation. And Kaiser Permanente is starting a pilot program that will refer lonely or isolated older adults in its Northwest region to community services, with plans to eventually bring it to other regions, according to Lucy Savitz, vice president of health research at Kaiser Permanente Northwest. (KHN is not affiliated with Kaiser Permanente.)
The effectiveness of these programs and others remains to be seen. Few have been rigorously evaluated, and many assume increased social interaction will go a long way toward alleviating older adults鈥 distress at not having meaningful relationships. But that isn鈥檛 necessarily the case.
鈥淎ssuaging loneliness is not just about having random human contact; it鈥檚 about the quality of that contact and who you鈥檙e having contact with,鈥 said Dr. Vyjeyanthi Periyakoil, an associate professor of medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine.
A one-size-fits-all approach won鈥檛 work for older adults, she and other experts agreed. Instead, varied approaches that recognize the different degrees, types and root causes of loneliness are needed.
Degrees of loneliness. The headlines are alarming: Between 33 and 43 percent of older Americans are lonely, they proclaim. But those figures combine two groups: people who are sometimes lonely and those who are always lonely.
The distinction matters because people who are sometimes lonely don鈥檛 necessarily stay that way; they can move in and out of this state. And the potential health impact of loneliness 鈥 a higher risk of heart disease, dementia, immune dysfunction, functional impairment and early death 鈥 depends on its severity.
People who are severely lonely are at 鈥渉igh risk,鈥 while those who are moderately lonely are at lower risk, said Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Brigham Young University.
The number of people in the highest risk category is relatively small, as it turns out. When AARP asked adults who participated in its survey last year 鈥淗ow often do you feel lonely or isolated from those around you?鈥 4 percent said 鈥渁lways,鈥 while 27 percent said 鈥渟ometimes.鈥 In the University of Michigan鈥檚 on loneliness and social isolation, 8 percent of older adults (ages 50-80) said they often lacked companionship (a proxy for loneliness), while 26 percent said this was sometimes the case.
鈥淚f you compare loneliness to a toxin and ask 鈥楬ow much exposure is dangerous, at what dose and over what period of time?鈥 the truth is we don鈥檛 really know yet,鈥 Periyakoil said.
Why it matters: Loneliness isn鈥檛 always negative, and seniors shouldn鈥檛 panic if they sometimes feel this way. Often, loneliness motivates people to find a way to connect with others, strengthening social bonds. More often than not, it鈥檚 inspired by circumstances that people adjust to over time, such as the death of a spouse, close family member or friend; a serious illness or injury; or a change in living situation.
Types of loneliness. Loneliness comes in different forms that call for different responses. According to a well-established framework, 鈥渆motional loneliness鈥 occurs when someone feels the lack of intimate relationships. 鈥淪ocial loneliness鈥 is the lack of satisfying contact with family members, friends, neighbors or other community members. 鈥淐ollective loneliness鈥 is the feeling of not being valued by the broader community.
Some experts add another category: 鈥渆xistential loneliness,鈥 or the sense that life lacks meaning or purpose.
Dr. Carla Perissinotto, associate chief for geriatrics clinical programs at the University of California-San Francisco, has been thinking about the different types of loneliness recently because of her 75-year-old mother, Gloria. Widowed in September, then forced to stay home for three months after hip surgery, Gloria became profoundly lonely.
鈥淚f I were a clinician and said to my mother, 鈥楪o to a senior center,鈥 that wouldn鈥檛 get at the core underlying issues: my mother鈥檚 grief and her feeling, since she鈥檚 not a native to this country, that she鈥檚 not welcome here, given the political situation,鈥 Perissinotto said.
What鈥檚 helped Gloria is 鈥渢alking about and giving voice to what she鈥檚 experiencing,鈥 Perissinotto continued. Also, friends, former co-workers, family members and some of Perissinotto鈥檚 high school buddies have rallied around Gloria. 鈥淪he feels that she鈥檚 a valuable part of her community, and that鈥檚 what鈥檚 missing for so many people,鈥 Perissinotto said.
鈥淟ook at the older people around you who鈥檝e had a major life transition: a death, the diagnosis of a serious illness, a financial setback, a surgery putting them at risk,鈥 she recommended. 鈥淭hink about what you can offer as a friend or a colleague to help them feel valued.鈥
Why it matters: Listening to older adults and learning about the type of loneliness they鈥檙e experiencing is important before trying to intervene. 鈥淲e need to understand what鈥檚 driving someone鈥檚 loneliness situation before suggesting options,鈥 Perissinotto said.
Root causes of loneliness. One of the root causes of loneliness can be the perception that other people have rejected you or don鈥檛 care about you. Frequently, people who are lonely convey negativity or push others away because of perceived rejection, which only reinforces their isolation.
In a , researchers from the University of Chicago note that interventions that address what they call 鈥渕aladaptive social cognition鈥 鈥 distrust of other people, negativity and the expectation of rejection 鈥 are generally more effective than those that teach social skills or promote social interactions. Cognitive behavior therapy, which teaches people to recognize and question their assumptions, is often recommended.
Relationships that have become disappointing are another common cause of loneliness. This could be a spouse who鈥檚 become inattentive over time or adult children or friends who live at a distance and are rarely in touch.
鈥淔iguring out how to promote quality relationships for older adults who are lonely is tricky,鈥 Holt-Lunstad said. 鈥淲hile we have decades of research in relationship science that helps characterize quality relationships, there鈥檚 not a lot of evidence around effective ways to create those relationships or intervene鈥 when problems surface.
Other contributors to loneliness are easier to address. A few examples: Someone who鈥檚 lost a sense of being meaningfully connected to other people because of hearing loss 鈥 the most common type of disability among older adults 鈥 can be encouraged to use a hearing aid. Someone who can鈥檛 drive anymore and has stopped getting out of the house can get assistance with transportation. Or someone who鈥檚 lost a sibling or a spouse can be directed to a bereavement program.
鈥淲e have to be very strategic about efforts to help people, what it is they need and what we鈥檙e trying to accomplish,鈥 Holt-Lunstad said. 鈥淲e can鈥檛 just throw programs at people and hope that something is better than nothing.鈥
She recommends that older adults take mental stock of the extent to which they feel lonely or socially isolated. Am I feeling left out? To what extent are my relationships supportive? Then, they should consider what underlies any problems. Why don鈥檛 I get together with friends? Why have I lost touch with people I once spoke with?
鈥淲hen you identify these factors, then you can think about the most appropriate strategies to relieve your discomfort and handle any obstacles that are getting in the way,鈥 Holt-Lunstad said.
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